Love & The Law of Attraction


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This morning I woke up thinking about my good friend that passed a few years ago. She left this life with a huge cancerous tumor in her body, that thing grew fast and furious.

It came so clear to me this morning one reason why. I wasn’t actually thinking about the whys, as a matter of fact, it was my friend’s death that taught me to not ask why, and to trust that life has its flow.  I was lying in bed contemplating the Law of Attraction, which is something I do often. Then I had this epiphany. She talked about breast cancer, she bought and sold products to avoid breast cancer, she was writing a book about breast cancer, and I helped her make videos where she talked about breast cancer, she was passionate about it.

I have been ‘studying’ the Law of attraction for a few years now. Exploring and contemplating how it works and even wondering if it is real. I have learned that the Law of attraction is a ‘high’ law of the universe. There are many universal laws, gravity being one of them. But the Law of Attraction seems to be a ‘law’ all the time, unlike gravity. This law is about: like attracts like, what we think about most of the time we create. It’s about energy and frequency.

Everything is energy and has a frequency, even our thoughts. So, negative thoughts create negative energy and vice versa. Sounds simple and it really is. It’s our minds that are so full of crazy activity that we can’t possibly believe that a simple concept exists.

I see now that my friend didn’t understand this concept. She wanted to ‘fight’ the disease and anything associated with it. When I think about that, I see the amazing law in action. Wow, she truly brought this tumor into her being just by focusing on it.

What am I focusing on right now?

Life never ceases to amaze and fascinate me. And like anything else once we understand how it works it becomes easy.

Our thoughts create things. Whatever we think about we bring to us. That can be a very scary thought to some people because they are aware that they think negative thoughts allot. But remember this, it’s not just our thoughts, it’s our energy behind the thoughts our ‘vibration’. This is an important fact. When we understand the concept that we are not only our bodies and minds, we are spirit, an infinite being that never dies and we are here to experience physical form, then we can truly see that our thoughts are not in control of us. Thoughts are thoughts, not mine, not yours; they are simply thoughts-energy. They float around and sometimes we open to them and make them part of us. Our thoughts are not ‘our’ thoughts, they are simply thoughts. That really can give us a sense of freedom. The Buddhist concept of non-detachment helps with is, we have thoughts, but we can choose which ones we want to attach to, if any. It is completely up to us, we are very powerful beings with free will.

So taking all of this into the picture, we can change our thoughts into anything we want, we put a feeling to it and voila, we have created something consciously. It’s all about awareness. We can become aware of our thoughts and chose differently in every single moment.


Now the non-easy part.

Can we truly learn what we are thinking and then change it?

Of course.

Well, then do we want to change it? That’s a different question isn’t it. Do we want to feel good all the time and get what we truly want? Of course!…I think. What do I truly want? That is the BIG question. I believe that is the stumbling block here when we look at the law of attraction and try to apply it.

I’m a huge advocate of meditation, because though experience I have ‘seen’ the other part of life that isn’t seen with the physical eyes. Meditation and contemplation has taken me to places where I can feel the truth of life, a place where everything flows and makes sense in my heart. Do I meditate with regularity, no. Why? Well, sometimes I think that it’s because feeling good is not comfortable all the time. I have become accustomed to feeling not so good. When I interact with others, there are so many discussions on what is wrong, what feels bad, what we don’t want and on and on. So the question I ask myself is, how do I think about, talk about, vibe at the level of what I want and live in the world as I know it.

I don’t have the answers to these questions, however, I was talking to my 10 year old son the other day and I was telling him my thoughts on my life circumstance. He said something to me that really sunk in immediately, he said: “Mom, you always tell me not to care about what other people think of me”, “I said; yes that is true. It’s not your business what other people think of you”. He continued: “Well I’ve been watching and listening to you Mom, and it seems to me you do care what people think of you.” My whole body shivered, it does that when I hear truth. Ever since that conversation I have been watching myself, my thoughts and actions and I see where my thoughts and actions are coloured for the most part with my desire to please people. Wow.

So, back to the law of attraction and do I want to feel good all the time. Sometimes I compromise feeling good because I don’t want someone else to feel bad. Interesting huh? That would mean that I am assuming that that person will feel bad, and I am taking responsibility for their reaction and I don’t’ want to feel what I am assuming they are feeling. When I read this back it sounds so strange. Why would I care what someone else is going to feel? Do I care how others feel about what I say? yes, I think I do.

So here is another question, Can we be ourselves if we care what other people may or may not think? NO! Do children think about what other people think about what they say? No. They just say it.

In order to truly embrace our lives I feel we need to be ourselves at all times not matter what. When we do this we can then learn about how we think, we then can change our thoughts and start to feel good and then what we truly want will become clear. Now, we can truly create the life we want, with clear knowing of ourselves.

I have been on this spiritual path for over 30 years, and there are some things that I resonate with the most. We are having a human experience, so in reality whatever we do is simply what we do, there is no right and wrong in the big picture, it is simply experience. I feel when we chose to experience life consciously, then we find that only love is the truth. So connecting to that knowing within, helps me through anything that comes my way.  LOVE truly is all there is, it is the only law that is higher than the law of attraction from my perspective. When I look at the meaning of life and my role here, it is to be love.

With Reiki Love;



“The most important aspect of love is not in giving or the receiving: it’s in the being. When I need love from others, or need to give love to others, I’m caught in an unstable situation. Being in love, rather than giving or taking love, is the only thing that provides stability. Being in love means seeing the Beloved all around me.”
~ Ram Dass

If we are basically positive in attitude, expecting and envisioning pleasure, satisfaction and happiness, we will attract and create people, situations, and events which conform to our positive expectations.”

~ Shakti Gawain, author of Creative Visualization

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