The other day I was listening to a friend who was going through a hard time. She was haunted by her past, feeling like she made bad choices and it made her unhappy in her life today.
I started to think about my past and how I am affected by it today. I had some unpleasant things happen to me but for the most part I am not affected by them anymore. Yes, they do show up on occasion, but this is where I’ve learned something important about the past; I can change it.
Think about this; what is the past? Is it real right now? In this moment….is there a past?
What I have learned over the years ( and am still learning) is that the ‘past’ is only a thought…..it’s all in the mind. Whatever happened, is only in your mind, it’s your mind that is still hurting you, not the other person or situation.
So if it is only in the mind we have full control over how we see it. That’s right, we have full control over what we think….I will say that again. We have full control over what we think, because thoughts are just that…thoughts. They don’t belong to us until we claim them. Of course it will take practice because for most of us, no body told us that when we grow up.
Example; we have a thought and it makes us feel bad; we have a choice in that moment, “do I want this bad feeling?” Let’s say the answer is no. Okay, so in that moment of acknowledging the bad feeling, acknowledging that you don’t want the bad feeling you have a choice…..change it. Yup in that moment change it, find a thought that feels good.
A personal experience: when I was very little I was sexually abused. For years I didn’t really remember, then I was put under hypnosis and there it was. I told people and they said: “that is awful, how horrible for you, you must be messed up”. For years I was angry and sad. One day I decided I didn’t like feeling bad, so I did things like meditated, and went to an Ashram where I discovered that I could focus on God/universe/love. Until I had an aha moment! This circumstance gave me the ability to love deeper, it gave me the ability to be more compassionate, it showed me my path in life….to help others. Wow, I am so grateful for that event in my life!! I feel so blessed to be who I am today. There are so many people I have helped because of that event in my life. Like magic I changed the past. I never feel angry or sad about it now. It’s completely different for me.
Remember one very important thing, you are not your mind! It is a part of you, a tool for you to use. You can put it away when you don’t need it and you can use it to it’s fullest when you do. You are the driver!! pull over sometime and listen.
This life is awesome, when you want to see the awesomeness and it can suck when you want to see the suckiness, it’s your choice.
With Reiki Love;